I thought I was getting close yesterday. Went through the wiki dreamhost and followed the instructions for setting up dreamweaver. I loaded dreamweaver onto a different PC and copied the website over to the new pc. Used the instructions for setting up dreamweaver from Wiki.dreamhost. Opened up Drammeaver and found the connection to the remote site, where it listed all the files. ftp://site name.com.
So I think the laptop is connecting to the remote server now, but when I try to use the connect to remote site button on Dreamweaver on the Site Panel, it doesn't want to connect so that I can download the new updates.
The website tests ok in the browser preview.
I feel like I'm getting closer now, and appreciate all your help.