I won't bother you with email now (you sure you wanted to publish that ) but will follow-up in a few months. I'm just happy with the candid exchanges.
I don't want to get VPS to support this. If I got a VPS, I could do this on my own and wouldn't need to bother DH. But the whole point is that I want to do as much as I can with DH, in my shared space, and without bothering DH support. I think the ideal solution would be for DH to provide shared hosting services in servers that are dedicated to supporting Mono. Enable mod_mono in Apache and do whatever is required for configuration in just those servers - just to be sure that other users aren't adversely affected. I'd be happy to get re-hosted into such a server as an alpha/beta. Then when the environment is well defined and tested perhaps all shared hosts can get the updates.
I don't mind the silent/no-support option, but of course as I said in my last post, it must be fully functional and documented, or company efforts to provide the functionality will be wasted as no one can/will use software if they can't figure out how and can't ask anyone who did the implementation. No-support is OK, just don't take the initiative and set it up for inevitable failure.
Separate but related, I'm a marketing machine. If DH supported Mono I would be singing the praises all over .NET/Mono forums. That would draw more people to develop/deploy Mono solutions here. We would then support one another just like PHP people here do. I think I could draw some C# MVPs here too, lending even more credibility to the services. (Hell, I would love to get a reseller commission on every Mono-enabled shared account if we could lock it down like that!) I'm not going to stick out a carrot for thousands of new shared-host customers, that could be unrealistic. But there must be "some" value associated with this sort of marketing and business from industries where DH hasn't yet penetrated. That space is still largely untapped, and some companies that have tried this half-heartedly have drawn business from developers who are now very unhappy. Just look around and ask yourself "how many good Mono hosts are really out there, and how much new business can we get if we become the premier/recognized/go-to provider of Mono hosting in the world?"