I’m forwarding my dreamhost email (firstname.lastname@example.org) to my gmail account. And sometimes there’s a 1-2 hour delay!
I setup gmail to reply as me (a long time ago)
When I send email to someone, like my wife, who also has the same setup (with her separate gmail account), I’m getting the softfail:
Adding the spf TXT record with google value doesn’t seem like it will help. Seems like it is the opposite and I’d need google to add dreamhost (which I know isn’t going to happen).
I’m wondering if the problem is the way in which I added my “account” to gmail.
A long time ago, you could add an “account” to gmail simply by click settings, account, add another email address you own, and it would send you a code. After typing in the code, the new email address (email@example.com) would show up in the list. Now, when you “add another email address you own” it prompts for SMTP server, user, pass. Is this the cause of my issue? Do I need to switch to sending my non-gmail email thru the dreamhost SMTP servers?
I attempted to setup the gmail “add account” but none of the SMTP settings worked (and I tried them ALL). The default option (port 587, secure using TLS) says:
Authentication failed. Please check your username/password.
[Server response: Unspecified Error (SENT_EHLO): Unable to send AUTH command over non ssl connection code(0) ]
So, in summary:
How should I use my custom domain at gmail? Forwarding seems to be causing the SPF/delay issue.
Should I just setup google as the MX? Is that still free?
Somewhat related to this old thread, but not quite: https://discussion.dreamhost.com/thread-129658.html