If you do a "wget" (which is a *ix utility, but there's a DOS version you can run from the command prompt in Windows), it simply fetches the page and writes it to disk - there's no time spent fetching images and other subordinate files, and no time spent rendering.
The home page of "www.xxxxxx.com" is 12,766 bytes. Wget calculated the speed of the connect at 20.44 kbps.
This is Verizon premium DSL, not the slow DSL, yet 20.44 kbps is slow on a 56 kbps dialup modem.
The home page of "pinedog.ca" is 24,597 bytes. The speed is 26.05 K/s.
One of my home pages is 28,576 bytes and it arrived at 81.12 K/s. Wow. Finally something faster than a dialup modem can do.
But google.com arrives at 376.69 KB/s.
Most websites don't match Google, but average-good websites typically run about 200 K/s.
If you SSH in to your account, you can run "top". At the top of the screen, it will show server load - 5, 10, and 15 minute averages. Bonk is currently showing 83.26, 48.40, 35.60. That's really overloaded.
When I had a hosting company, I strove to keep server loads at 1.0 or less. Sometimes in peak hours (and admittedly, I'm posting in peak hours - it's 11:30 PM in Pennsylvania) it would get up to 1.5 or even 2.0, but during slack times, it would drop to as little as 0.10 or 0.15.
I don't know if the problems with Blingy are causing the problems on the web servers. Conceivably, it could. But jeesh, Marie, this has been going on for about a week and a half now, hasn't it? This morning, it was so bad that I had sites that simply refused to come up, and I couldn't fetch mail at all either with a client (couldn't log in) or webmail (Error message: IMAP server dropped connection)
Is it feasible to switch to a dedicated server? Yes - but it can be expensive. For a low-end server at ThePlanet, you're talking roughly $100/month; that's an unmanaged server with no backup. Put a second drive in the machine so you can do backup, add cPanel/WHM control panel, and goose the RAM up from 500MB to 1GB, and you're at about $150. You can get server management for about $50/month, more or less, depending on how good a manager you need to hire.