I have two sites, completely identically setup, they have identical wordpress themes, and they both have jetpack and total cache active. One consistently responds in less than 2 seconds, the other consistently over 40 seconds, often timing out, server unavailable, etc, which is next to useless.
I keep being dissatisfied with support to fix the issue. Identical setups, 3sec v's 40sec, and the issue is all mine? Go figure. Apparently my waiting a minute per page for the admin interface to make it to the next page also causes the server to have memory overrun problems--though it is still my issue, apparently. Wow! A single user, occasional use, causes memory overruns, and it's still apparently something I'm doing.
As an example, with no admin interface activity, a browser refresh is still taking over 40 secs, when in another browser window, at the same time, I can refresh the other site 20 times while waiting for the other one... That's in addition to it taking over 40 seconds all by itself...
So I am looking to alternative and more reliable hosting providers that host wordpress. Can anyone make any recommendations for a better service. As far as I am concerned, it'd be harder to have a less reliable one.
All suggestions greatly appreciated.