I fallowed the wiki instructions as close as I can and it did create a custom php.ini file for me I just need to know how to get the site to use that one.
I created a folder called cgi-bin and copied php.cgi via ssh to it, then I copied the old php.ini file to cgi-bin
updated the .htaccess to point to the new files and when I did a phpinfo it showed it was using the new files.
I then added the custom php.ini to cgi-bin after I backed up the old one. The site wont load.
I figured it was a problem with the custom php.ini file so I re uploaded the old file and I still would not work.
I removed the htaccess stuff and now it works again, any thoughts?
I did ask dreamhost for support but they wont help with this stuff.