PHP extensions - Ming

I’ve managed to compile my own version of PHP5, but am having trouble installing Ming as I’m unix-illiterate (unixilliterate?).
I can follow instructions, but can’t make sense of how to install ming. I have it downloaded and followed the instructions here and the language bindings here

The default set up assumes you have root control of the server.
I’m completely confused about what should go in what folder , setting prefix= stuff, DESTDIR= details.

I have managed to make which is what i believe I need to end up with, but it doesn’t load even though I’ve set the extension_dir to where the ming folder is and loaded it using my custon php.ini.

I need some simple instructions that assume NO unix knowledge.

Thanks in advance