is there a way to connect to my mysql server with MySQL Control Center? i keep getting the access denied error
You don't give a link or explain what "MySQL Control Center" is, but if you are running this software on your home machine, you'll need to edit the MySQL user and give it permission to connect from an IP or range of IPs, or a hostname or range of hostnames. See past threads on the forum for more information on how to do this.
sorry for being so vague, i thought it was a common utility
also didn't realize i was able to search a more broad range of topics
got it figured out, added my WAN IP range to the hosts of the MySQL user...