I try both ftp.zeroserenity.com and nimitz.dreamhost.com, but neither resolve. I've used both WinFTP (GUI) CommandFTP (CLUI) and CuteFTP. Nothing works. Help?
Also, is there an IP I can use to get to it manualy instaid?
Try ftp'ing to [whichever_server_your_site_is_on].dreamhost.com. You can login with your ftp username and password and should be in business.
If you're not sure which server you're on. Check out your web panel under Domains > Manage. Under web services for your domain, you'll see a corresponding server listed.