Once your qccount is activated then you'll get FTP access and everything, till then I'm afraid you're stuck.
Don't know if you can cancel the paypal payement, but if you can why not do so and just pay with a credit card through DH? That would probably be faster. If all else fails, the 14th is only two days away... I know that sucks, but it's not far off.
This seems to be a paypall issue, not a DH thing, if forwhat ever reason paypal scheduled the payement for the 14th, then that's when DH will get the money, and then they'll acivate your account. Anyays, paypall blows and I don't think it's a very good company to do business with. just my little opinion...